The Good, The Bad and The Ugly

The Good, The Bad and The Ugly

Have my words seemed a little forced lately? Can you force joy?  Maybe you've noticed, but I've been trying desperately to get out of a funk.  You get out of a lemon what's in a lemon and it's not sweet!  I'm going to be honest...the funk is not gone yet, but here's a go at what's on my mind.

McGuire Jeans - Transitional outfit

Day to day, that's the only to live your life!  That's not to say that you shouldn't have goals or have a code of morality that you live by, but as important as those things are, you just cannot ever predict what's going to happen.  Best laid plans is, I believe, how the saying goes!  I do believe that everything happens for a reason and I do believe in the Law of Attraction.  The Law of Attraction states that we attract everything...the good, the bad and the ugly.  You might say, and I do to - "I would never want to attract anything bad into my life", but you attract by the thoughts you think.  I will admit that lately, I've tried my best to change my thoughts, to manipulate what my mind is sending out and how I'm feeling, but I've been doing a pretty crappy job.  I've been attracting lots of totally unwanted things.  Contrast is supposed to be good because it gives perspective.  When we know what we don't want, we know more about what we do want.  I'm getting pretty certain about what I don't want in my life, but instead of talking about what I don't want, let me just talk for a few minutes about what I do want, because the Universe has completely shown me what I don't want and I GET IT!

I want friends who love me for who I am and I want to love them back for who they are...I don't want to buy my friendships and I don't want friendships (or relationships for that matter) based on anything but honesty and love.

I know that I am a trustworthy person...I truly want everyone to be happy!  I do realize that I am not responsible for other people's happiness, no matter who they are or what they want.  Even if I do feel responsible, it makes no difference because we ALL choose our own happiness.

I want to remember everyday that WHAT ANYONE ELSE THINKS OF ME IS NONE OF MY BUSINESS!  This is so important and worrying constantly about what everyone else thinks only makes you miserable.  Everyone, for the most part, maybe except for Jesus and Buddha and a few other exceptions like Mother Theresa), are in it for themselves and the crazy thing about that is that IT'S OK TO BE IN IT FOR YOURSELF.  I've said it before...if everyone did the things that TRULY MADE THEM HAPPY, the world would be a different and much better place.  We all spend far too much time worrying if we've done the right thing and what will people think!  It is really ridiculous!

I want to enjoy the sunshine, eat the good food, make the money (who doesn't because money is freedom), dance in the rain, drink the wine, BUY THE SHOES.  You and I and everyone else are entitled to happiness.  Entitled is a tricky word, but I believe that the Universe put us here to advance humanity.  We simply can't go backward...only forward.  It might feel like two steps back and one step forward, but we are really only evolving.  More and more people everyday are interrupting that crazy record that goes on in their heads and figuring out a different way to think.  I'm going to keep learning (and going to therapy) and striving to play new songs and learn new dances.  There will be setbacks but I will learn from them.

Authenticity...that's the buzzword of the decade.  It is a good word, but figuring out who you really are in this age of social media and magazine perfect airbrush pictures is sometimes hard.  It takes silence and meditation and contemplation and trial and error to really learn what your authenticity is!  I think it also takes a lifetime. Ha, something else to do...figure out who you are?! 

Everything that we want is at our finger tips, we just are too blinded by our own crazy minds to see it.  Yes, even that new car or beach house or whatever other material thing you might be wanting.  There is nothing wrong with wanting a good life filled with beautiful things.  Just don't be an appreciative, be humble, be kind and most of all love yourself. It makes it oh so much easier to love others when you love yourself!

I want to laugh until my face hurts with friends, drink champagne and eat truffle fries (definitely what I would choose for my last meal), climb to the top of the Eiffel Tower, have interesting conversations that last into the wee hours of the night, and sometimes just sit on my front porch and read a book in my pajamas.  Yes, there are responsibilities in life, those things we have to do, but finding joy in the everyday and bringing that joy into the tasks that may not be our favorite is what makes life ok. 

I want to dedicate this post to my friends who have loved me through thick and thin and who don't care how much money I have, or how smart I am or where I live.  The people who love me for my heart.  You know who you are and you make life worth living.

Oh my gosh...I feel so much better...for now.  These are things that I believe with all my heart.  I am not a fraud because I talk about these things constantly and I'm not always able to live them!.  We all know things that we should do that we don't and we all make mistakes...that's the nature of humanity.  We are not doomed for destruction, we should be expecting happiness and joy and good food and love and all the things...All of the things that bring us joy!

It might be a little out there for some of you, but I love to listen to Abraham Hicks (Esther Hicks)...if you get it, you get it, however, it has really put things into perspective for me.  Once you understand that your life is supposed to be joyful, then, when it's not, it's twice as bad because you know better!  I think that might be called awakening.  Anyway, here's a quote that might help.


Translation:  do what the heck makes you least something every day!  Inspired action isn't forcing anything, instead it's letting the Universe guide you to where your dreams are.

How are you feeling?  Is life challenging, or are you riding the wave right now?  I would love to know!!

Daily Outfit - Olive Green & Light Blue for Fall

Daily Outfit - Olive Green & Light Blue for Fall

Making Wonderful Memories at the Ritz Carlton, Washington D.C.

Making Wonderful Memories at the Ritz Carlton, Washington D.C.